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Fetishes, anyone???

What is the meaning of "Fetish"

I looked up the definition:

1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.
2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality.
3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

Mmmm..fixation!

There are so many types of "fetishes". I believe it comes in three varities:

1. media>>>obsessions over material things(like leather, rubber, latex, satin, and silk,etc.)

2. form>>> is more of an obssession over an object that turns you on.(like garter belts, knee-high boots, stilettos, sexy lingerie, nurse uniforms, school girls uniforms, etc.)

3. animate >>>an obsession that has to do with parts of the human.(hair, breast, feet, neck, abs, etc.well you get my drift.)

But than again people pretty much can turn anything into a fetish. Fetishism can go from mild to extreme. If your fetish interferes with your relationship or your life, seek the help of a professional, please before it's too late!

Here below is the most common of fetishes, well at least to me anyways:

1. Voyeurism and exhibitionism
Sexual gratification from observing the naked bodies or sexual acts of others, especially from a secret vantage point.
Perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger)/an act of such exposure
Some to the point where they can't get off with their partner unless they were watching pornography or another couple in the act. For me I am not sure I like this one. But sometimes I do find myself loving to do the deed in public! Is that the same or not, hmmm..idk! Lets move on, shall we?

2. Braids, ponytails, pigtails
A very big fetish among men. From blondes, brunettes, redheads, to green, etc. Well maybe not green or at least not in the norm anyways. You name it, long, short, thick, curly, straight, braided, pigtails and ponytails. You men love to pull our long hair (in braids, ponytails, whichever turns you on), while we arch our back , moaning don't cha? And I believe for some women especially in this day and age, baldness is in. So men if your hair is receding, or whatever, shave it off. We are not stupid, do you really think that comb over or ponytail turn us on? Fuck No!

3.Fingernails and lipstick
Red lipstick and long, fingernails. Maybe not so much now, since we are all into that natural look, etc. But some men are still obsessed with them red luscious lips and the feeling a woman's nails running down their backs or even elsewhere.

4. Golden showers
I know , this sounds disgusting to some, but there are a lot out there that luv this and quite popular, I might add. Oh baby please urinate on me or let me relieve myself on you before we get down to the nitty gritty! Uggg...... some foreplay, huh? It usually comes in handy when you are in that dom./sub. role play. Degrading or having power over someone!

5.Body piercing/tattoos
Everything from bellybuttons, tongues and nipples to eyebrows, penises, etc.
One example: There's nothing better than a pierced tongue, that feeling of a very stearn, cool object against you know where, is quite a ride in itself..nuff said!
Tattoos, yes I love those too! Of course only a few and it all depends what they are and where. Some just love it all over their bodies, now that for me is way too much.

6. Leather, rubber, vinyl, latex
Watching us woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a quite tease in itself..mouth watering site aren't we? Men love material things such as these. It's, I believe men's fixation with that "bad girl" look.
I am not sure if women is that much into that, I am sure there are some of course. For me I am more into simple things like a guy in a towel fresh out of the shower, or them sexy boxers. As far as leather goes, yes I like a leather collar on a guy! What can I say!

7. Domination and submission
Tie me up, blind folds, cuffs, floggers, etc. Oops. I am getting carried away here! Order each other around in bed like slaves, spank them, smack them, and even penetrate them with a strap-on...yes, that's right men, if you can do me back there, I want to do you too! Welcome to equality! I promise I will be gentle if you behave!Ha! Well, you get the idea.

8.Feet and hands
Men/women enjoy licking, sucking, kissing and biting feet. Some simply can't date that person if she/he has ugly feet or toes. Yuck! I myself love getting my feet rubbed, kissed and massaged...yup ecstasy! I am not too into hands, except for the usual use of them normally and of course sexually. But some are really into them. For some women they love men with big hands and feet..well ya know the meaning of that. I don't think it is true, I have seen big feet and um a very tiny ......! Size matter, folks! Of that is a fetish in itself isn't it?

9.Stomachs
Both men and women agreed that taut tummies make them somewhat stir crazy. But there are some that likes a tummy with a teensy-weensy little pot. Well to each his own, right?

10. Water
The rain, the shower, the ocean, etc.. both men and women declared that they enjoyed sex best in these habitat! For me it's in the rain and add a bit of thunder and lighting and I am there baby!

Of course there lots more that I have not mentioned. Some are just sick and gross and well, illegal, etc. Those are the ones I stay away from. Anyhow, whatever your fetish is, enjoy, be safe and have lots of fun! Just don't get out of hand with it, as in anything in life I guess! Control, control, control, people.

Mwah, thanks for reading and take care.
Oh, yeah some of you out there are obsessed with us so call "ornamenals" Asian women in case ya didn't know. Hmmmm....am I a fetish to some of you out there? Why you luv us so much? Please tell me. Maybe that is another blog in itself!
So what is your fetish?? Do tell me, won't you?

Hold on to them.....

Protect your breasts
Have you gotten yourself checked today?
( Mammography is a specific type of imaging that uses a low-dose x-ray system to examine breasts. A mammography exam, called a mammogram, is used to aid in the diagnosis of breast diseases in women.)

What is your take on it?

A very important point made by Bill Maher
My friend showed me this video...he knew that I would agree. He has known about my heart on this subject for awhile.
So many people die everyday of horrible, tragic deaths, earthquakes, floods, murders, rapes, accidents, etc....I have always felt that compared to 911...it's like their lives was not worth as much as the people who died on 911. Don't their lives count too, they also have loved ones that morned them that they left behind. Where do they get help, sympathies or aide??? How sad that is.

The I's have it!

I Live: because I still have lots to live for and do.

I Work: because I have to!

I Talk: to myself sometimes. Okay more like cursing in my car at stupid drivers.

I Wish: that you can get wishes to come true.

I Enjoy: a good spanking. Well, shoot I do.

I Look: for good in everyone, of course some are harder to find than others.

I Lost: 15 lbs.

I Flirt: at times when I don't mean to. Gets me into trouble.

I Find: honesty and laughter are hard to find in a partner.

I Smell: like sex. Think whatever you wish here.

I Hide: from people when I am stressed.

I Pray: but I am not sure it is working.

I Walk: to work and I love it.

I Write: sometimes about nothing. As you can see.

I See: a light at the end of the tunnel, but I can never seem to reach it at times.

I Sing: in my car.

I Long: for a foot massage.

I Can: make you cry, if you're not careful.

I Watch: all around me and try to understand it all.

I Yearn: to have my mind at peace.

I Daydream: silly things, naughty things.....mmmm.

I Want: you to want me..huh, isn't that a Cheap Trick song?

I Cry: when my loved ones are in pain.

I Read: too many books.

I Love: but, I am not any good at it.

I Sometimes: feel like a nut.......

I Hate: people who don't pick up their dog poop!

I Touch: people lives, eventhough it's hard for me to believe.

I Hurt: when my love ones are hurt.

I Fear: that all the shit that is happening will never end.

I Hope: for a better tomorrow

I Break: hearts.

I Eat: when I am hungry.

I Quit: being so trusting.

I Bathe: because it feels good. Plus I don't want to stink!

I Drink: water mostly. But a great glass of wine is good to have at times.

I Stop: trying to figure out the WHYS

I Save: joys of laughter and memories of love.

I Hug: those who let me!

I am in: a state of confusion.

I Play: with your head.

I Miss: my rabbit.

I Hold: onto my pride too much, people say.

I Forgive: but I don't forget.

I Drive: only when I have to. Gas prices suck!

I Learn: everyday.

I Have: lots to be thankful for, but hardtimes makes it unclear.

I Don't: know how to play chess.

I Made: some bad choices in my life.

I Kiss: when I want to be kissed

I Believe: that I do have a purpose.

I Wait: when I have to.

I Need: too many things, right now.

I Feel: lost sometimes.

I Know: more of less than what I know now than I knew of before

I Wonder: what my future holds.

I Am: bad kitty.

hurt & pissed!

Feeling blue...
come help me make it thru
yearning, desires, wanting to be touched
I know it's wrong to want you
and so much.
oil and water weren't we two
trying so hard in each other's clutch
in the end, it wasn't so
you gave up emotionally
and I gave up the fuck!

Ex-Factor .................

was emailed to me today, from one of my ex and well a friend for over 15 yrs. I have not spoken to him in awhile or replied to his emails. It was best, I just didn't want to hurt him anymore.
I do love him dearly, but lets just say, that things just wouldn't work out!
I can never give him what he really deserves or want....eventhough he refuses to see it.
The funny thing is that when I have read these lyrics below...it also applies to my recent breakup, of two years. But it would be coming from me, to him.! Karma, would you say??? Maybe or just fuckin' shear coincidence and torture!


Ex-Factor Lyrics by Lauren Hill
It could all be so simple But you'd rather make it hard Loving you is like a battle And we both end up with scars Tell me, who I have to be To get some reciprocity No one loves you more than me And no one ever will

Is this just a silly game That forces you to act this way
Forces you to scream my name
Then pretend that you can't stay
Tell me, who I have to be To get some reciprocity
No one loves you more than me
And no one ever will

No matter how I think we grow
You always seem to let me know It ain't workin' It ain't workin'
And when I try to walk away
You'd hurt yourself to make me stay
This is crazy This is crazy

I keep letting you back in
How can I explain myself
As painful as this thing has been I just can't be with no one else
See I know what we got to do
You let go and I'll let go too
'Cause no one's hurt me more than you
And no one ever will Care for me, care for me
I know you care for me There for me, there for me
Said you'd be there for me Cry for me, cry for me
You said you'd die for me Give to me, give to me
Why won't you live for me

Where are your hot spots??

All of us have hot spots!
We have different spots when we are with someone and sometimes it is depending on the person. Sometimes love comes into play too , the more you love that person the more desires you have and it generates hot spots everywhere they touch you. Just my silly thoughts!